mindful movement

Leap of Faith

by ultrapeg

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It continues to amaze and sadden me to hear people proclaim certainty about their inability to do yoga or Pilates even though they have never tried.  Or maybe they tried many years ago but are sure that the interim time span has zapped their capacity. The time for these efforts has passed, they reason, it’s pointless to try now.  In the next breath, however, I also commonly hear “but I have to do something!”  Well, there you have it.  You can either spend your time wishing you could do something and lamenting your perceived inability or you could spend that same time actually doing something.  Granted, making the effort takes a leap of faith.  It requires overcoming fear and venturing into the unknown.

One thing that might help is to remember those times in the past when you did manage to overcome your fears and venture into the unknown.  We’ve all had those experiences.  Think of a time when you wanted or needed to do something bad enough that you dropped your resistance and moved into it.  No matter what the outcome, I think it’s safe to assume that you learned something from that experience.  And chances are what actually happened is nothing like what you thought might happen.

Another motivation might be to consider the consequences of doing nothing.  You will continue to feel bad about yourself both emotionally and physically.  That negativity can produce a downward spiral.  The mind-body connection between physical illness and emotional attitude is increasingly well-documented.  Yoga and Pilates both work on strengthening that mind-body connection helping you to focus your mind, get to know how your body works and bring body and mind into better alignment.  Why let yourself sink into a rut when all you have to do is take that first step in a new direction.  The first step is the hardest, but once you take it and begin to move forward your confidence will grow and you may find your attitude changing.  After all, others have done it and you can do it, too!

Finally, all of us have friends or neighbors who are doing those things that we wish we could do.  I don’t mean your children or grandchildren or anyone who is half your age or pictured in a magazine.  But others who are in similar situations to your own.  You know who they are.  Ask them about their journey.  They probably do not have any special powers that you lack.  But somewhere along the line they took that leap of faith and tried something new.  Is it working for them?  Will they support you in your effort to try?  Having a system of support is a huge asset when you are trying to make a change in your life.  That’s why classes can be so helpful.  All the others in the class are working at the same thing.  We all need each other to stay on track. Working in a group with the similar goals is powerful.  Take advantage of that and let the group’s momentum pull you along.

So I would like to challenge you to try again to make that leap of faith.  Take your fear to the limit:  what’s the worst that can happen? If you move slowly and thoughtfully, paying attention only to yourself and how you feel, making movements only in a way that works for your body and stopping when you need to you are unlikely to hurt yourself.  You may even surprise yourself by finding that it feels good. Maybe you won’t like it.  That’s fine.  Everyone has to find the form of movement that works best for then.  But we all need to move, regardless of age or physically limitations.  You’ll never be able to form an opinion until you try.

Hope to see you all in a class soon!

Doing Your Best vs. Doing Your Most

by ultrapeg

A recent Yoga Journal article on backbends (The Compassionate Backbend by Kate Tremblay) talked about the distinction between practicing yoga for the purpose of achieving picture perfect poses vs. practicing for the purpose of attaining freedom of movement.  We’re all familiar with the former, but maybe we should instead be focusing on the latter.

“If you practice backbends intent upon eradicating aspects of yourself that you see as somehow ‘not measuring up,’ such as weak muscles, stiff joints, or protective insulation, you succeed only in beating yourself up. There’s no freedom on that path . .

If the discipline of yoga is to bring greater freedom, you must practice . . . in a way that accepts and accommodates your resistance—even values and honors it—while still letting you receive the intended benefits. The point of this practice is not to become someone else but to become more fully yourself.”

You can substitute any pose or other aspect of practice for “backbends” in that concept.  No matter what discipline you choose to practice there is always a stumbling block – something you wish you could do better but can’t because of some perceived shortcoming.  Perhaps this desire even causes you to envy someone else who is able to do whatever it is the way you wish you could do it.  But, like the quote above makes clear, this is the same as wishing you were someone you’re not rather that celebrating who you are.

Those of you who have attended my classes know that I often try to describe what I hope you will feel when you’re practicing certain poses.  Yoga and Pilates are both disciplines that aim to help you connect mind and body, movement and sensation, awakening body awareness.  If you can feel the movement, you’re achieving the benefit.  Your pose may look different from someone else’s pose, but that doesn’t make it any less beneficial.  And it is the right pose for you.  This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t challenge yourself.  But it does mean that you need to be mindful about how and when you challenge yourself.

The article talks about some of the simple stretches we do in class that feel so good.  You know the ones.  These may seem “especially pleasurable [since] you rarely try to reach beyond your body’s natural comfort level. You’re not trying to achieve anything in particular, just instinctively going for the relief and exhilaration”.  The good news is that you can do that in any pose – that is, go for “relief and exhilaration”.  But it helps to remember

“to accept only what is appropriate. You make a conscious choice not to take all you could, not to move into the fullest [pose] your body can manage, because you see value in holding back; you value the health and integrity of your body more than the [perceived] glory of a deeper pose.

This kind of restraint is so uncommon in our culture that it can feel quite unnatural. To embrace restraint, you might need to acknowledge how strongly it conflicts with the messages we regularly receive about what it means to be accomplished and successful. . . If you move into [your practice] without acknowledging [this] potential [conflict], doing your best can translate into doing your most. Not only can this lead to injury, but it can also sabotage the benefits of the practice altogether. If you want to give your [practice] your best effort . . .you have to remind yourself that success comes with taking only what you need from a pose—only what your body can appropriately use and no more.”

As I’ve said many times, what’s appropriate for your body can vary from day to day.  So doing your best on any given day may be different from what it was the day before, or what it will be the day after.  But if you keep practicing and do your best each day, you will get the benefits.  And I say that with confidence.

An article from Yoga Basics (Yoga During Times of Change by Megan DeMatteo) takes this concept a step further by suggesting that Child’s Pose is actually an “advanced [pose] . . .because it requires that we let go into the necessary gift of self care, something not easy for many of us.”  So next time you feel the need to stop during practice and give yourself a break, you can relax in Child’s Pose by reminding yourself that you are making an important contribution to your practice by executing this “advanced pose”.

A final thought from the song “Anthem” by Leonard Cohen (featured in a recent blog post by Parker Palmer):

Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There’s a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in

Let the light shine in on your practice!  It is, after all your practice.  You don’t need to impress anyone.  When you begin to believe that, you will find the freedom that you are looking for.